Small things do matter
There are certain points in our lives when we feel that our existence is worthless. When we feel that life has no joys left for us. People expect things from us which we cannot give. Things that they themselves might not have done in their time but want us to do, infact they try to impose their will and viewpoint on us, almost to the point that we feel stifled and suffocated. No one is ideal and being ideal itself isn’t ideal at all, remember Brutus of Julius Caesar who was an idealist. At these points all one can manage to do is to cry, hidden from everybody else. Everybody thinks that they are correct and try to force their view of righteousness on everybody else, not realizing that their views might not agree with those of the person they are being forced upon. Its not that the people who force their views don’t care for the person they are forcing their ideals on. Infact they care more about that individual and want to prevent him from harm, but the person might not be wanting to listen to them. Such forcing of ideals creates an atmosphere of bitterness in a family/workplace that might never be removed. It induces fear, hate and reduces family ties.
Moving on to the important topic, small things do matter, sometimes more than the big things do. It is our tendency to give more importance to people who don’t even care for us and little/ no importance to those who do.We tend to ignore people whom we don’t like not realizing that ignoring a person makes him hate us even more than openly fighting with him. Staying with the in-crowd at times is more important than staying with people who care for us more. Everybody likes attention, love, respect and it is our fault if we can’t give it to all. If a person hates me, its probably my fault, because i must have done something to cause this hatred. A few positive comments won’t cost us anything, but they might make the day for somebody.
Treating everybody equally is probably the most difficult task ever. We always manage to differentiate between people and find faults in them but the arduous task is overlooking those faults and treating the person you hate/don’t like at par with your close friends.
Any one who manages this can achieve a lot.This is something i am trying to learn. For example When anybody makes us wait for even ten minutes, we curse the fellow for making us late forgetting that even we might have made somebody wait for 30 minutes.
Remember if we take care of the pennies, the pounds will take care of themselves. I received this really nice sms the other day “Don’t make someone a priority in you life when you are just an option in theirs.” Its really thought provoking, because this is something that we all manage to do. Give undue importance to one and complete ignorance to the other..
Introspection helps me reach my flow , as i realised after reading sheetal’s blog ( http://letzcenterourselves.blogspot.com ).A flow is when a person is, to quote Sheetal ”so plugged into the activity/task at hand that you lose awareness of time and your surroundings and enter a zone that is much more expansive than your own presence.”
It is, when we are in flow that we attain our true potential, that we realize our weaknesses and our capabilities.
It can also be a point when we are the most susceptible emotionally.
